I don’t usually follow a lot of reality style television. I have a few favorites that I love or love to hate; but I do watch My Big Fat Fabulous Life on TLC, currently on Tuesday evenings. I have mixed feelings on this show and let me tell you why…
About My Big Fat Fabulous Life
In My Big Fat Fabulous Life, viewers will get a window into Whitney’s life as she tries to find her way in a world that judges people by their size. She recently moved backed in with her parents at the age of 30. Determined to find happiness from the inside out and live her life out loud, Whitney rediscovers her love of dance, pursuing an aggressive dance schedule despite her weight and even teaching her first dance class for “big girls.” She’s also throwing herself into the dating scene — much to the chagrin of her often-meddlesome parents — and she’s waging war on the intolerance that she calls “the last socially acceptable prejudice.” From donning a bikini on the beach for the first time in a decade to confronting online bullies who try to body-shame her, Whitney Thore is no longer letting her fear of people’s judgment dictate the way she lives her life.
So this reality TV show on the TLC channel is about a woman named Whitney Way Thore. She’s from North Carolina and loves to dance. Honestly, besides the show, I’m not sure how exactly she makes a living, but she recently bought a house and has a vehicle, nice clothes, etc so income is coming from somewhere. More power to her!
I have watched this show from the beginning because I thought “Finally! A show about a big girl around my age that honestly seems fed up with being told to lose weight and everything would get better!”
And a lot of times, she couldn’t give a shit about what people say to her, about her, etc.
White, and what I saw in her show, My Big Fat Fabulous Life, inspired me to sign up for a 5K almost two years ago. I walked it, but I finished it by God. I had two of my sisters with me (and neither of them are as big as me) and we had a great time (even if I didn’t walk much for a few days after that LOL). I sent her an email and really enjoyed the positive and encouraging response I got back a few weeks later.
I really like what she says on the show. And I feel like we could be friends in real life if we lived closer. I love it when she wore a bikini to the beach. So what if people looked, made comments.. I love that she gets out there in public and dances for local parades and such! And she’s teaching a Big Girls Dance Class which is also part of the TV show!! No one is excluded or talked down to, even if they can’t dance. She has PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome) like I do and we share a lot of the same struggles! I think she’s using her show as a platform to educate folks about PCOS, even those that are dealing with it and don’t know about it.
I love these things about Whitney Way Thore and My Big Fat Fabulous Life!
Now, there are a few things that I really don’t like about her/the show and I’ve gone back and forth about not watching it anymore. And it’s not just Whitney or her show; I’d stop watching any show after I get fed up with these things. Like whining about not able to lose weight and keep it off. Sweetheart, I have PCOS, I’ve been heavy my entire life, I’ve even had weight loss surgery and gained some back! While it’s difficult to lose weight (no argument there), I don’t like the whining and complaining about it. Almost like using these issues she has (PCOS, being obese, being single) as excuses why she can’t lose and/or keep the weight off.
Maybe this is how it comes out after the editing is done. I’ve heard a few folks talk about that. Maybe that’s part of the “drama” factor that gets people coming back for each new episode. But I find it a turn off. I’d much rather she say screw it, I realize I’m this size and everyone else needs to f* off. BUT then stop complaining about it too.
I also think she’s very co-dependent, with several close people in her life. She lives with her used to be on and off again ex-boyfriend turned best friend; her parents are involved in almost every aspect of her life, including her home purchase; her cats are like her children, etc. I get being close to people. Hell, I talk to my mom and usually a few siblings every day via text or phone calls. But we aren’t at each other’s homes or spending hours worrying about finding a man or the latest drama while we neglect our own home and families.
These are the things I could do without! C’mon…(anyone catch the reference there? No, just me?)
For now, I still watch My Big Fat Fabulous Life on Tuesday evenings and I’m usually on Twitter following comments and conversation threads (I’m a lurker). I would love for Whitney Way Thore to find peace with herself, a way to keep dancing, and find the love of her life.